I wanted a page where we could engage in conversation together – not just me posting stuff, but US chatting, supporting, guiding and advising each other in the work.

Don’t know quite how it’ll work, but I’m excited to give it go! Hope you are too…

– Got a question?
– Working on something cool that you want to share?
– Stuck with something and need a sounding board?
– Found a great resource?

Post it here! :0)

YES! I want to join the conversation. Take me to the group page…

Secure care

10 practice tips...

My few years working in secure residential child care was probably the steepest learning curve of my career to date.

It is a unique hot-house of challenge and delights.

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Image courtesy of ©123rf/Haessig Jérémy

So how can we do it better?

There are lessons here for everybody…

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Top Tip for 2016

Hold on to your hats, we're off again!

Well, the festivities are over and we’re off the starting line for another year.

Knowing how hard you all work and what a tough job caring for troubled kids can be, I thought I’d make this first blog post about that…

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Photo courtesy of ©123rf/Ion Choisea (adapted)

Why your first job this year is you!

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Beating burnout!

En route to clinical supervision...

In 2006 I burned out. Hit the wall. I’m not sure where my head went, but it went!

Photo courtesy ©123rf/Sakda Saetiew (adapted)

Photo courtesy ©123rf/Sakda Saetiew (adapted)

The reason? The work. Dealing with sexual abuse all day, everyday.

Pressure, responsibility, volume, seriousness, risk, concern… All of it. I just ran out of steam.

The answer? Better supervision…

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Resisting the pull of work…

Why we should rest & some ideas how...

Summertime is here – despite the rubbish weather! The kids are out of school and it’s time for a breather. A rest…

Photo courtesy of ©123rf/tomwang (adapted)

Photo courtesy of ©123rf/tomwang (adapted)

But taking a break isn’t always easy, is it?

Here’s why we should rest & some ideas how

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Worker grief – it’s time to speak up…

I have 6 names written in the front of my work diary. 6 children I worked with. They are all no longer with us. They died.

Photo courtesy ©123rf/racorn (adapted)

Photo courtesy ©123rf/racorn (adapted)

Sooner or later, anyone working with troubled children will experience grief of one kind or another.

Loss comes in many forms…

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Why real rest is crucial for carers…

I remember my Dad telling me one day, when I was about 15, that he’d just booked a holiday. To Spain.

Back in 1980, when a holiday for us meant a fortnight in a caravan in Whitby, this was big news!

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Photo courtesy ©123RF/convisum

But this holiday would have even more surprises in store. What were they? Well…

No ordinary break…

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Looking after no. 1...

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Photo courtesy of ©iStockphoto/cokacoka

I’ve recently had a couple of days off and I’m still tired.

May be it’s the late nights or the chocolate-filled days. May be it’s just being 50 years old!

Or may be some of it is due to the impact of working with troubled young people for 20 odd years – it can certainly takes its toll.

Once again I’m looking in the mirror asking, “do I look after myself enough?”

Do you?

How you could look after yourself better (& a bit about why)…

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5 Self-care tips for carers…

Looking After No.1...

Those of us who work to help others, often neglect ourselves.

Psychologists call the impact of our work, “vicarious traumatisation” (VT). In other words, dealing with the struggles of troubled young people can have a similar impact on us.

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We empathise with them, we engage closely with them – this has an impact. The helper is affected.

Caring is hard. Keeping going is sometimes really hard. I discovered this the hard way…

What happened to me…

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