When I first saw this book two things attracted me to it:

    1. I hadn’t read it before – I’ve read most books on ADHD so tend to notice when i see a new one)
    2. I totally related to the title!

The Grass is Greener…

One of the persistent things with my own experience of ADHD is an almost constant sense of fidgety agitation. For me, this is not just about the hyperkinesis (physical restlessness, stimming, etc.) but also about never feeling quite settled, calm & content where I am.

As the title of the book suggests, it’s not that I want to be somewhere else specifically, as much as I don’t feel quite right here. It can be a bit of both – but it all adds up to a sense of missing something.

Like with all ADHD symptoms, this will differ from person to person. Someone may not experience this much, if at all; for others it’ll be one of their main challenges.


Dr Wes Craven is a certified couples and family psychologist, so he comes at this from a less medical perspective and covers all the aspects of ADHD that impact not only on the person with the condition, but also those who love and care for them. I found this more systemic perspective refreshing and welcome it.

One great strength of this book is the accessibility of the language. I found it much easier to read than some of the others. Personally, I think this is one you could give a teenager to read and they’d be able to connect well with it.

The author is very clear about the challenges people with ADHD may face including:

    • challenges in the family
    • in school
    • in social and romantic relationships
    • in work

The book is also very good at offering guidance to 3 groups of people associated with someone with ADHD:

    • family
    • friends
    • romantic partners


This can be a controversial aspect of ADHD treatment for some, but this book handles it very well.

It lacks the medical & chemical detail of some others books, but is better for it in my view.

Final thoughts

There are tons of books on ADHD but I think this is one of the better ones. I like the simplicity of the language, the practical nature of the advice and the inclusion of guidance for those around and connected to the person with ADHD.


What do you think?…

Please let me know your thoughts…   Leave a comment below.

Related previous posts:

What Exactly Is ADHD 

– This is my FAVOURITE book on ADHD – ADHD 2.0 by Ed Hallowell & John Ratey

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